Pulse Point Relating
Finding the bridge and staying on the pulse of what is available NOW in relationship.
“I don’t believe we are broken, I believe we are patterned.”
The ways we protect, avoid, control, or disappear were built for a reason. As a part of your history, these patterns have served at one point. And now they are the very thing keeping you stuck and holding you back from what you actually want:
Connection.
When history hijacks the present moment, my work brings those patterns into the light with honesty, sincerity, and care.
If you are seeking coaching as an individual or you are coupled, I am here to support you in relating in ways that feel more grounded, connected, and true.
At the heart of my work is a genuine love for people.
Humans are endlessly fascinating to me. I've spent nearly three decades listening to their stories, witnessing their struggles, and watching what happens when they stop fighting themselves and begin telling the truth about what is really happening.
I've spent thousands of hours sitting with them through grief, betrayal, heartbreak, anxiety, resentment, shame, healing, growth, and the quiet courage it takes to keep showing up when life gets hard.
For 28 years as a full-time massage therapist and the last 9 years as a relationship coach, I've had the privilege of being invited into some of the most vulnerable moments of people's lives.
Over time, I've learned that the issue people bring into the room is rarely the whole story.
Most of us already know what we "should" do.
The challenge is that something inside us keeps pulling us back toward old patterns, familiar reactions, and ways of protecting ourselves that no longer serve us.
That's the part I'm interested in.
I don't just offer insight or new tools.
I work with the part of you that struggles to use them.
Most people don't need more information. They need support untangling the patterns that keep getting in the way.
My work is grounded in extensive training, including four years at The Relationship School and a two-year certification in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real. But just as important as any training is the experience that comes from spending decades listening to people, watching patterns unfold, and witnessing what actually creates lasting change.
I am seasoned in being with people and what arises.
I work with individuals and couples who want more than insight. They want movement.
People often come to me when they find themselves repeating the same arguments, feeling stuck in familiar relationship dynamics, struggling to communicate, recovering from betrayal, or realizing that the way they've been relating to themselves and others is no longer working.
With couples, I don't sit back and passively observe. I work actively in the dynamic. I interrupt patterns, name what is happening in real time, and sometimes take a clear position when it serves the relationship.
Unlike traditional approaches that prioritize neutrality, I believe people benefit from having someone willing to help them see what they cannot see on their own. My goal isn't to judge who's right or wrong. My goal is to create the conditions where honesty, accountability, and genuine change can occur.
I'm not afraid of hard conversations,
and I don't believe growth requires shame.
I bring compassion, accountability, humor, and a willingness to tell the truth.
I care deeply about humans and the complicated ways we try to protect ourselves. I believe most of us are doing the best we can with the tools, wounds, and stories we've inherited.
And I believe that when those patterns are brought into awareness with honesty, compassion, and accountability, real change becomes possible.
This work isn't about becoming someone new.
It's about finding and staying on the pulse of what is available and what is possible now in relationship.
My Promise to You:
I will not prioritize your comfort over your growth and you won’t be alone in it.
I won’t collude with your blind spots.
I will meet you with care as they come into view.
I won’t pretend not to see what’s happening.
I will stay present as you learn how to face it.
When the patterns become clear, conscious choice becomes possible.
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This work isn’t just about understanding your patterns.
It’s about getting your life back.
Stepping out of anxiety, resentment, conflict, and second-guessing.
Making room for the people you love.
Having energy for what matters.
Telling the truth.
Feeling connected.
Laughing more easily.
Playing again.
Doing work that feels meaningful.
Creating relationships that feel nourishing.
Building intimacy through trust, repair, and knowing how to navigate challenges together.
Experiencing moments where you feel fully alive and engaged in your own life.
The result isn’t a perfect life.
It’s having the awareness, skills, and support to meet life as it is.
To participate fully.
To feel connected.
Present.
Fulfilled.
Alive.
It’s about living your life instead of managing it.
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• When anxiety, self-doubt, people-pleasing, over-functioning, or self-abandonment take over, you learn to stay connected to yourself without losing connection to the people who matter.
• When your sense of worth, belonging, or happiness depends on a relationship, you learn how to enjoy your own company and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.
• When the same challenges keep showing up across family, friendships, work, and romantic relationships, you begin to recognize the patterns at play, understand the role you have in them, and make choices that reflect who you are becoming rather than who you've been.
• When you're ready to date, you learn how to recognize red flags, honor your standards, and choose relationships that support the life you're creating.
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• When conflict becomes repetitive and exhausting, you learn to recognize the cycle you're caught in and how each of you contributes to it.
• When resentment, defensiveness, or distance take hold, you develop the ability to repair after conflict and reconnect more effectively.
• When trust has been damaged, you learn what repair actually requires and how to rebuild it through honesty, accountability, consistency, and follow-through.
• When emotional or sexual intimacy has become dormant, you learn how to reconnect with one another in ways that feel genuine, accessible, and alive.
• When life changes, parenting, stress, or competing responsibilities create distance, you learn how to grow as individuals while continuing to grow together as a couple.
• When a relationship is no longer meant to continue, you learn how to end it with as much honesty, respect, care, and integrity as possible.
This work is for people who:
are tired of repeating the same relationship dynamics
are willing to take responsibility for their patterns
want real, embodied change, not just insight
are open to honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable